Friends and lovers

You can not depend on people, that is one thing I learned over the past years. It's silly actualy, since I've known it all along and still I had to learn it. When you are in the darkest of your nightmares: you can not depend on others. When you want the world to get better: you can not depend on others. When you are delightfuly happy: don't depend on others. When you need help: don't depend on others. In theory it is easy: just know others can let you down. So don't put up your hopes. Not in friends, not in lovers, not even in family. Family is different for all, as I have experience throughout different periods in this existence.

But friends and lovers, are two groups that are largely constant. 

I am sure that friendship is an important relation for humans in the world, but can you ever really rely on another human being? Friendship ends where the selfishnes of a man/woman starts. According to me it is as easy as that. We can depend on our friends, our very best friends on moments we need them the most. Unless... unless it's just not the right moment for them. So, to me, the easiest way to always have a friend around is to treat every stranger as a friend. That is the only way that you'll always have a friend avaiable at every moment of every day in your life. So, don't depend on specific people, just treat the human kind as one big group of trustable friends. Obviously some strangers or people don't deserve this treatment, but you'll cut them out very easily. A stranger can become a good friend, giving you unexpected advice in a troublesome moment. A good friend can turn into a stranger over time, without any advice ever given.

As for lovers, oh well, we all know how that works, no? There is no need to put down my own experience with women. Altough it could help understand women why I think of them as crazy creatures. Crazy, not horrible or awful, not perfect or supersweet. Crazy. But in a good way, I guess. Why they are crazy exactly, that doesn't matter. It's not what I was writing about, I was writing about lovers in general. The difference with friendship is obvious, you can not treat all humans as lovers. A few, off course. But not as many as in the friend-department. You can have different lovers over time, even different lovers at the same time. A lover is someone that you belong to, that owns you and that is willing to be owned by you. Not in a possesive, dominant way. But in a connective way, a bond that can not be broken by itself. It has to be cut by one. Friendship can fade, love doesn't fade. Lovers can only break the connection by being harsh. It's what makes lovers horrible. When one lover breaks your heart, another will meant it eventualy. If a man/woman is lucky, the lover will be "the one" and never break it again (out of love or out of settling down). Altough one can ask if the settling down lover is still a lover or, rather, an 'everlasting friend'. If a man/woman is (un)lucky, the new lover will break the heart again. The good thing in this: once broken, a hear can't break further. It always breaks on the same point and in the same amount. So the more lovers break and meant and meant and break, the easier it gets. Whenever you find yourself a lover: give it your all, lose yourself in it. There is nothing more beautiful than being a crazy lover, since a love that is not givien with all your soul is doomed to fail.